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Is this self-care or avoidance?

Amanda Xavier
posted on February 10, 2021February 10, 2021
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It is hard to differentiate between the two intentions if you had not allowed yourself to be open and vulnerable with your flaws. To know when I was using my favourite habits as self-care versus as an unhealthy avoidance, I had to upgrade my

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The courage in standing up for yourself (in an Asian community)

I cannot constantly excuse others or give them the benefit of the doubt to keep up appearances of me being polite or to 'jaga perasaan' - not when my value, my self-worth and my credibility has to be reduced to enable it.

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I don’t want to be proud of being busy all the time

A month ago, my partner Kula asked me to reflect. "How much of the work that you currently work on, actually serves your own interest and goals? Don't you think the time you put into all this work should be prioritized towards your own project, instead of someone

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The difference between planning and starting

Tbh, in the past two years, I have spent more than a couple thousand Ringgit to upskill myself in photography and social media skills. I have bought and watched so many courses, spent money on equipment and set up several mood boards + social media plans. And yet, despite all of this, one look at

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How to stay informed and stay sane minggu ni?

Suffice to say, this has been a rather heavy week of discourse, nationally and internationally. A quick scroll on my Twitter would reveal conversation after conversation on the ongoing BLM movement in America, the ethics behind rioting, coronavirus updates, the discrimination towards dark-skinned

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5 powerful reasons to start journaling today

I journal every day and I am very aware of how lost I feel when I skip a day or two. It really does wonders to center me and help me make sense of my

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Journal with me: #IamBecoming!

In the book, Michelle mentioned that by reflecting thoroughly on this prompts, it can help you find your voice and define your story - which is something I am always eager to

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Leaning into the C-19 dread

The fact is, I do feel overwhelmed and demotivated, even if my workload is smaller than before. I assured myself and decided to just adopt a different, gentler strategy moving

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Overcoming my fear of failure

During Mother’s Day over the weekend, I thought back about the last time I was visited by my late mother. By then it had been roughly a year since my mom had passed due to health complications. We did not have a good relationship so it was honestly scary when she appeared in my dream

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Resource anchors – an IRL Patronus charm?

Remember when Harry Potter thought about his parents and friends as a tool to cast his Patronus against the Dementors - this is just like that. The good memories are your Patronus and the Dementors are your personal fear and